BALANCE: stability produced by even distribution of weight on each side of the vertical axis; equality between the totals of the two sides of an account; physical equilibrium; mental and emotional steadiness
One of my early bosses required anyone who used an acronym at a meeting to contribute a quarter to the snack kitty. I would like to enforce a similar rule, with a slight modification. Anyone who uses the word “balance” in a conversation with a mommy must finance her next hair cut or massage. Sound fair?
It seems to me that balance is more complicated than equally distributing weight on each side of a vertical axis. So many times, we talk about balance simply as the distribution of weight (or time) between work and home. But, all the mommies I know have more than one axis to balance. Balancing only the work/home axis ignores the mommy/spouse axis, family/friend axis, service/me-time axis, emotional fulfillment/intellectual stimulation axis, etc.
I think a diagram of a “balanced” life would look more like a wheel than a teeter-totter. And, frankly, I think I have a flat tire.
The amount of air required to inflate the work/home and mommy/spouse portions of my wheel is resulting in damage to the rims in the friendship and service sectors. And, I seem to have lost my me-time and intellectual stimulation hub caps a few miles back.
Go ahead, ask me about balance. My hair is a disaster and I’ve got a severe kink in my neck.
I’d love to chat…